Questions to ask a guy when you are dating
In the process, you sometimes don’t listen carefully to what the other person is saying (or not saying) about themselves.
You can forget to think carefully about whether you might be truly compatible.
You can make these sorts of quick and unconscious assumptions in the early stages of any dating relationship.
However, when you meet online (and especially when you meet someone who lives far away) it is particularly easy to assume that this other person is more suited to us than they actually are.
The better you are at asking questions, the more you’ll learn about someone you meet online and the better you’ll be able to gauge whether this person might be a good fit for you (and vice versa).
So what should you ask someone interesting when you meet online? This question gets a bad rap sometimes as unimaginative and banal, but I think it’s hugely important.
This doesn’t always turn to be the case; no matter how much phone or email chemistry you share. Not a single spark.) Secondly, when you meet someone online, it’s easier for your imagination to get carried away by that heady mixture of excitement and hope.
(You knew there was going to be a “however” didn’t you.) If you date or marry this person, issues associated with their family of origin will rear their heads in your own relationships.
Meeting for a quick coffee early in the process isn’t always feasible, however. There are good reasons that asking questions and listening well are relationship superpowers.
So what else can help you stay safe and date smart when you meet someone interesting online? Guard yourself against the assumptions and idealizations that can flourish in a long distance relationship. Don’t just think about the image you are presenting to this prospective partner, think about what they are telling you. Often we neglect the basics because we’re looking for a surefire tip or a secret answer we just haven’t figure out yet.
So today, I’m going to tell you about 4 common pitfalls of meeting someone online and 4 ways you can avoid those pitfalls and increase the chance that your relationship will work.
When you first meet someone you are interested in, you can spend more energy trying to make sure that they like you, than thinking about whether or not you like them.