Dating my boyfriend
If you disagree with your boyfriend/girlfriend about some money topic then find a compromise, that’s one thing.
But if one or both of you refuses to budge on your stance, that could change an orange flag to a red one.
If the other person is pushing hard for information or wants a lot of your data, step back.
When you have a conversation going, get (and give) a sense of what both of you think about saving long-term, investing, planning for retirement, and giving.
That must be done with some care, since one of you might think it’s all right to bring that up just a month into things and the other person may find themselves looking for the big neon sign that says “This Way Out of the Relationship!
” Here are some good things to remember when the subject of money is broached with your boyfriend/girlfriend: This goes along with the point we just made about bringing up certain subjects too soon.
A reader and friend of Litsa’s recently forwarded her a question posed to the advice columnist, ‘Ask Amy’.Money is a heavy topic, so give yourself some time to get deeper into the courtship.Talk about whether or not going to dinner tonight fits within your budget, for example.As a widower this reader friend found the question to be kind of awful and as such just had to share it (obviously).Upon inspection Litsa and I found the question to be equally as awful and, although the advice columnist answered gently and with tact, we thought we’d like to take a stab at it ourselves.