Dating a youth pastor
Other times the despair would trigger constant, nagging guilt and regret.
A girl would walk down the aisle to marry a man who loved God and loved her, and she’d feel a shadow on her soul.
Until we could find a new youth pastor, I was in charge.
I preached the youth service every week, I led the youth Sunday school, and I led the youth prayer groups. The youth ministry had gone all-in on purity culture.
Even finding a godly woman who can mentor you can help you to get close to someone without having romantic feelings get in the way.
f you don’t live in Evangelical-world, you probably missed this news.
It was part of the foundation of Evangelical “purity culture,” and it revolutionized parenting and dating for countless Christian parents and families. I was a youth pastor for a few memorable months at the height of the courtship craze.
The year was 1998, I was a youth volunteer at a small church in Georgetown, Ky., when our youth pastor left.
“I did what you asked, Lord, now may I see my reward?
” Beaty’s critique is well taken, and it’s certainly true that purity culture built a series of (often wildly unrealistic) expectations about the marriage relationship that awaited kids who courted. Each one of those things altered a person’s self-definition.